The Boyfriend Index.

This is a concept I have been working on for a few weeks now. In fact, I think my friends are sick of me spouting my theories on such. However, I cannot help but relate the ups and downs of my relationship to that of the stock market.

In other words, there are times when the boyfriend index is high and there are times when the boyfriend index is low. Now I am not saying that these highs and lows are correlated to the stock market (however, in cases where the market is down, we both could be cranky enough to cause the boyfriend index to lower). Rather, they appear to move independently of one another.

I have and continue to struggle with the low periods. I was raised in the Midwest with the expectations were that you always put on a happy face no matter what issues were really troubling you. It has taken some time (and therapy) to get to the point where I can actually admit that sometimes things just do not go perfectly right.

So, I developed the boyfriend index. For some reason it seems easier to couch relationship woes in terms of "the boyfriend index is low today" versus saying, "he continues to be in the closet to his family and left me alone at home on Sunday while he went to a family event." Whatever, the case it is a good thing. I am sure we all know the couple who keep the big smiles and everything is perfect attitude every time you meet them. I now look at these folks with a little bit of pity - why lie? I will respect you more if you can admit to a few cracks in the foundation of the relationship (and we all have them).

By the way, the boyfriend index is high today......