Voyeurs Beware!
A few friends of mine have recently alerted me to a disturbing new addition to Friendster. Apparently, a feature called "who's viewed me" or something like that has been added. This feature allows you to see exactly who has viewed you.
My one friend was a little freaked about it as he did not discover it until AFTER he had clicked on the page of a guy he used to date. How horrifying - this guy now knows that my friend is still thinking about him and checking up on him.
I had to check it out. I use Friendster very sparingly. For some reason, I feel it is a tool for 20 somethings and I have never been that "into it." A few years ago I did set up a page for myself, loaded some pictures and have a handful of friends linked to me. However, after the initial fun of looking at some folks and finding old lost friends, my interest waned, and now only log in once a quarter or so.
I have toyed with deleting my profile entirely as one of my "friends" is the ex who has provided me with so much mental grief. Of course, back in the day when I was actively concerned with his comings and goings it provided me a way to "spy" on him. However, as I have noted here in the past, I have stopped doing this and life has been much much better as a result.
Anyway, I went out to Friendster this AM to check out the new feature. Of course, only one person had viewed my home page - the ex. I am sure he is wondering why I am not returning phone calls or emails and probably checked the Friendster page to make sure I was still alive or had not moved far away. I found it interesting that he checked, but was not disturbed or upset in any way. Of course, I did not click on his home page as he would be alerted that I did so.
I am curious to see if Friendster will retain this new feature OR provide folks with some way to disable it. One of the primary draws of the internet is the ability to cloak yourself in anonymity and this feature removes that entirely. I know the few friends that I have talked about it with hate it.
The bright side is it will help all of us who are having a hard time getting over a certain someone from our past as it removes one method of keeping up with them. It took me some time to realize how damaging it is to keep rehashing a past relationship and wondering "what is he doing?" Once you release that, you can move forward.
Ah, I am so wise.... Too bad it took so long to figure it out. : )
My one friend was a little freaked about it as he did not discover it until AFTER he had clicked on the page of a guy he used to date. How horrifying - this guy now knows that my friend is still thinking about him and checking up on him.
I had to check it out. I use Friendster very sparingly. For some reason, I feel it is a tool for 20 somethings and I have never been that "into it." A few years ago I did set up a page for myself, loaded some pictures and have a handful of friends linked to me. However, after the initial fun of looking at some folks and finding old lost friends, my interest waned, and now only log in once a quarter or so.
I have toyed with deleting my profile entirely as one of my "friends" is the ex who has provided me with so much mental grief. Of course, back in the day when I was actively concerned with his comings and goings it provided me a way to "spy" on him. However, as I have noted here in the past, I have stopped doing this and life has been much much better as a result.
Anyway, I went out to Friendster this AM to check out the new feature. Of course, only one person had viewed my home page - the ex. I am sure he is wondering why I am not returning phone calls or emails and probably checked the Friendster page to make sure I was still alive or had not moved far away. I found it interesting that he checked, but was not disturbed or upset in any way. Of course, I did not click on his home page as he would be alerted that I did so.
I am curious to see if Friendster will retain this new feature OR provide folks with some way to disable it. One of the primary draws of the internet is the ability to cloak yourself in anonymity and this feature removes that entirely. I know the few friends that I have talked about it with hate it.
The bright side is it will help all of us who are having a hard time getting over a certain someone from our past as it removes one method of keeping up with them. It took me some time to realize how damaging it is to keep rehashing a past relationship and wondering "what is he doing?" Once you release that, you can move forward.
Ah, I am so wise.... Too bad it took so long to figure it out. : )
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