The Boyfriend Files
A good friend of mine recently gave me pirated versions of the first four seasons of Sex in the City (he picked them up in China for $1 each - shhhh don't tell anyone). Anyway, I have been gorging myself on episodes of this very witty comedy.
As we all know, the show revolves around the lives of four single women in Manhattan. However, it is really a guise for the lives of four single gay men as the similarities between these gals and me and my gay friends are unmistakable. As I have watched the show, I see parts of myself in each of the characters and think back to many of the situations I have been involved in during my five years of being a single gay man (prior to 2000, I was married and closeted).
As I watch the shows, I cannot help but reflect on my past. In particular, I think how lucky I am to have gone through all the ups and downs of dating and falling in love. If nothing else, it makes for some great stories. I was considering writing about my top four romantic moments - each of which revolved around a kiss. They were, in my mind, absolutely spectacular. However, as I started to write the first installment, I realized I could not effectively convey the brilliance of the moment. Plus, does anyone want to read all the details surrounding the big event?
So, I am not going to do the four part series. Rather, I have the memories in my head and do not feel the need to document them in writing. I do, however, maintain boyfriend files. My boyfriend thinks this is crazy, but when I enter into a relationship, I create a file for that person and keep certain emails, cards, ticket stubs, etc. pertaining to our time together. For some reason, keeping such helps me "prove" that I had love - even if for just a brief moment.
I recently read that Jennifer Aniston's high school boyfriend was auctioning all of the documents from their relationship on eBay with a starting bid of $100,000. I forwarded the article to my boyfriend with a note saying, "another reason to keep the boyfriend files."
As we all know, the show revolves around the lives of four single women in Manhattan. However, it is really a guise for the lives of four single gay men as the similarities between these gals and me and my gay friends are unmistakable. As I have watched the show, I see parts of myself in each of the characters and think back to many of the situations I have been involved in during my five years of being a single gay man (prior to 2000, I was married and closeted).
As I watch the shows, I cannot help but reflect on my past. In particular, I think how lucky I am to have gone through all the ups and downs of dating and falling in love. If nothing else, it makes for some great stories. I was considering writing about my top four romantic moments - each of which revolved around a kiss. They were, in my mind, absolutely spectacular. However, as I started to write the first installment, I realized I could not effectively convey the brilliance of the moment. Plus, does anyone want to read all the details surrounding the big event?
So, I am not going to do the four part series. Rather, I have the memories in my head and do not feel the need to document them in writing. I do, however, maintain boyfriend files. My boyfriend thinks this is crazy, but when I enter into a relationship, I create a file for that person and keep certain emails, cards, ticket stubs, etc. pertaining to our time together. For some reason, keeping such helps me "prove" that I had love - even if for just a brief moment.
I recently read that Jennifer Aniston's high school boyfriend was auctioning all of the documents from their relationship on eBay with a starting bid of $100,000. I forwarded the article to my boyfriend with a note saying, "another reason to keep the boyfriend files."
posted by The Random Gay Guy at 10:20 AM
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