Rice Queen
Ok, I admit it - I am a rice queen. For those of you who are not familiar with this term, it means a gay white guy who is attracted primarily to asian guys. Of course, the image in your head is always of some 50-something white guy with a fresh of the boat 20-something asian guy. Fortunately, this image does not apply to me and my boyfriend as I am 35 and he is 33 (as you can probably guess the boyfriend is asian).
I actually hate the term "rice queen." However, I thought I would take a few minutes to explore the mysteries of attraction. Why am I so attracted to asian guys?
When I was 10, my family took a trip to Orlando. It was a reunion for my Dad and his airforce buddies from long ago. One of his buddies was a Japanese-American guy named Dick Watanabe. I remember being fascinated by Dick (funny how some things never change) and wanting to spend as much time with him as possible. Of course, I had never met an actual asian person prior to this (remember, I grew up near Peoria, Illinois). So, this is my first known instance of my attraction to the asian man.
Fast forward to 2000 and my coming out. I knew I was attracted to darker men and most of the guys I initially dated had black hair and olive skin. I am repulsed by red hair, blonde hair, or freckles (essentially anyone that is pale like me). Thank god there are guys out there who like us! I am also not a big fan of body hair - except in certain spots where it belongs (you get the idea). So, it makes sense that I ultimately migrated to asians as preferred dates.
However, I think I also like the concept that I perceive myself to be in "high demand" in the gay asian male market..... Let me explain (and please note I am making some broad generalizations here). I have noticed that lots of asian guys are attracted to tall white guys and are not "sticky" (another bad term - "sticky rice" - means asian guys who are attracted to other asian guys). Who knows what the reason for this is - I like to think it is the poor job TV and media do of portraying minorities in a positive light. These kids grow up thinking the tall white man is the ideal (I am 6'3). The fact that a decent percentage of gay asian guys are attracted to tall white guys coupled with the fact that a decent percentage of tall white guys are not "into" asian guys (as many state in their on-line profiles), makes me a popular guy in this market segment. So, maybe there are some components of confidence boosting that is going on here.....
Whatever, the case, at some point, I pretty much migrated to only dating asian guys (with the occasional latino here and there). So, I admit to having an admiration for the asian male (a much nicer way of saying "rice queen").
PS - The boyfriend index rebounded from yesterday's low. Chicago is booked and all is right again.
I actually hate the term "rice queen." However, I thought I would take a few minutes to explore the mysteries of attraction. Why am I so attracted to asian guys?
When I was 10, my family took a trip to Orlando. It was a reunion for my Dad and his airforce buddies from long ago. One of his buddies was a Japanese-American guy named Dick Watanabe. I remember being fascinated by Dick (funny how some things never change) and wanting to spend as much time with him as possible. Of course, I had never met an actual asian person prior to this (remember, I grew up near Peoria, Illinois). So, this is my first known instance of my attraction to the asian man.
Fast forward to 2000 and my coming out. I knew I was attracted to darker men and most of the guys I initially dated had black hair and olive skin. I am repulsed by red hair, blonde hair, or freckles (essentially anyone that is pale like me). Thank god there are guys out there who like us! I am also not a big fan of body hair - except in certain spots where it belongs (you get the idea). So, it makes sense that I ultimately migrated to asians as preferred dates.
However, I think I also like the concept that I perceive myself to be in "high demand" in the gay asian male market..... Let me explain (and please note I am making some broad generalizations here). I have noticed that lots of asian guys are attracted to tall white guys and are not "sticky" (another bad term - "sticky rice" - means asian guys who are attracted to other asian guys). Who knows what the reason for this is - I like to think it is the poor job TV and media do of portraying minorities in a positive light. These kids grow up thinking the tall white man is the ideal (I am 6'3). The fact that a decent percentage of gay asian guys are attracted to tall white guys coupled with the fact that a decent percentage of tall white guys are not "into" asian guys (as many state in their on-line profiles), makes me a popular guy in this market segment. So, maybe there are some components of confidence boosting that is going on here.....
Whatever, the case, at some point, I pretty much migrated to only dating asian guys (with the occasional latino here and there). So, I admit to having an admiration for the asian male (a much nicer way of saying "rice queen").
PS - The boyfriend index rebounded from yesterday's low. Chicago is booked and all is right again.
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